Lessons Learned from “The Bachelor”

This week millions of us watched as Bachelor Brad chose to walk away from two women.  We hoped that he would find his true love.  Many of you have your own opinions on who he should have chosen, why he didn’t choose, and what kind of man that makes him. 

I, personally, respect him for walking away if he didn’t find a true connection with either woman.

Here are 5 lessons to be learned from watching “The Bachelor“:

1. Recreational dating is good.  Recreational dating is when you date many people at once to find out what it is you are looking for.  This is meant to be fun and to help you narrow down your search in finding someone to date exclusively.
2. Emotional involvement with 2 or more people isn’t wise.  When you begin to develop real feelings for someone, it is smart to only be involved with one person.  Otherwise, you get too confused and you can’t make a choice.
3. Rejection isn’t always about you.  When someone rejects you, it doesn’t mean that you are unattractive, unlovable, or a bad person.  It simply means that this person isn’t right for you.
4. When one door closes, another one opens.  You will never find your soul mate if you are in a relationship with the wrong person.  Sometimes rejection is just what you need to be able to find the right person for you.
5. Follow your heart.  No matter what the outcome, you need to follow your heart.  Bachelor Brad knew himself well enough to know that neither one of these women were right for him. 

Halle Berry Redefines Committed Love

Last week Halle Berry was on The Oprah Show.  She was radiating happiness and love.  She has announced that she is pregnant with her first child with her boyfriend of two years. 

Halle has been quoted in the past that she will never be married again.  Oprah asked her if she is still in that place in her life that she never wants to marry.  Her response was that the piece of paper means nothing to her.  She tried that two other times and it didn’t work out.  She said that they will be redefining love for themselves.

Halle is more interested in a “spiritual partnership” than in a marriage.  What exactly is a spiritual partnership?  To me, a spiritual partnership is one in which each partner is in it to grow as a person.  I think that you both need to be aware that you are together for this special reason.  Together, you will heal in each others love.

I think that this is such an idealized version of love and what so many of us (myself included) are looking for.  Yet, most of us settle for so much less.  I wish them both the best and I hope they have found the love they were searching for. 

Pamela Anderson Gets Married!

Pamela Anderson got married for the third time in Las Vegas.  She married Rick Solomon from the infamous sex tape with Paris Hilton.  Do you think the third time is the charm?

I often wonder why people choose to get married so many times.  I know of a woman who married and divorced five times.  Why do you keep getting married? 

Is it because you truly believe that you have found “the one” this time?  Is it a different type of love than all of the others?  I think that each relationship that you are in brings you different life lessons.  People come and go from your life according to what you need to learn at that exact time.  There is a catch, if you don’t learn the lessons, you are doomed to keep repeating them.

Hopefully Pamela Anderson has learned the lessons she has needed to from Tommy Lee and Kid Rock.  I hope she has truly done some work on herself and evaluated what she needs from a partner before taking this leap.  As a true romantic myself, I hope it all works out.