When you fall in love, you are happy. You spend every waking minute together. You can’t keep your hands off of each other. You spend hours talking and you never run out of things to say. You feel heard, you feel understood. So what happens to make this togetherness impossible to keep up?
Intimacy Obstacles
- Fatigue – You are too tired because you are too busy. You say yes to low priority events even though you want to say no. You don’t make the relationship the #1 priority. Taking better care of yourself will help this obstacle. Start implementing a healthy lifestyle. Set boundaries and stick to them.
- Not enough time together. It is a must to make time for each other. You fall into the trap of being too busy and it destroys many relationships. Work, hobbies, friends, and even children seem to come first. You can beat this obstacle by making time together a priority. Quality and quantity of time is important. Experts agree that couples need to spend at least 10 hours per week together. Make time without the kids.
- Working on the marriage…tomorrow. If you continue to find time for everything but the relationship, the wedge between the two of you will continue to grow. My dad has a saying, “If you continue to do the same thing the next 5 years as you did the last 5 years, you will continue to get the same result”. Make each other the priority and watch your marriage grow. If you need help, get it now. Don’t wait until it is too late.
