Many couples wonder how they rate in the sex department compared to other couples. Are they having enough sex? How many times per week should we be making love?
I have actually been asked this question so many times and the truth is, you need to figure out what is “normal” for you. Almost every couple in the world needs to negotiate issues around sex. You need to negotiate the frequency, the type of sex, the positions, etc.
You need to remember that there are not too many people who talk openly about their sexual relationship. You won’t always get the truth from your friends and your family. People tend to exaggerate how often they have sex because they have certain beliefs about how often they “should” be doing it.
Sexual Statistics
- Happy, healthy couples have sex on average 2-3 times per month.
- 1-in-5 married couples have a non-sexual marriage. This means that they are being sexual less than 10 times per year.
- Inhibited sexual desire affects 2-in-5 couples. This is the most common sexual problem.
- By the age of 40, 90% of men experience at least one erectile failure. This is very normal.
If you find yourself in any of these categories, know that you are completely normal. Your sexual desire can change from time to time. If you would like to increase the frequency of your sexual experiences, you can do that also. I would recommend learning as much as you can about sexuality and how to keep it exciting throughout your lifetime. If you need help, there are many sex therapists who specialize in rekindling desire.
You may have taken your stats from a long forgotten source, your own experience or a bunch of different sources, but if you know the source could you post it?
Thanks.
Hi Aaron,
My stats come from a seminar I attended at the Smart Marriages Conference taught by Barry W. McCarthy, Ph.D.. He works at the Washington Psychological Center at American University. He teaches the guidelines for revitalizing and maintaining sexual desire.
Terri
Thanks. I’ll Google and see if he has some of this online. They’re good stats and too many times I find stuff that’s too old to be pertinent in our radically changing culture.